Sometimes being nice is just that. No hidden agenda, no ulterior motives. Just a friendly act of kindness. So why is it that we always assume somebody wants something or is hiding something when they’re being friendly and kind?
Because that is what we’ve been conditioned to think. A genuinely nice person is a rare commodity, and one I’d like to see more of.
I’m just as guilty as most of both thinking someone wants something when they’re nice to me or try to get something out of someone by being extra nice to them. Who hasn’t? You can’t walk into a bar these days without a 20-something sidling up to some guy looking for a free drink. We immediately assume that guy wants in their pants and she just wants their money. But what if he just wanted some conversation? What if she was the one buying the drink?
My mother recently joined this program call The Happiness Movement, where the happiness ambassadors bring a little joy to the world just for the hell of it. They don’t get anything out of it but bringing a smile to someone’s face. While it can get a little overwhelming at times, happiness is at the forefront of the conversation. Being kind to others, helping people out soon becomes second nature.
But we shouldn’t need an organization to tell us that we need to be kind; it should be part of us, part of our daily lives. You hear the phrase “be the change you wish to see in the world” time and time again, but it’s becoming harder and harder to brush off. If we don’t change in ourselves what we want to see changed in others, we aren’t a very good example.
I think we all need to take a step back and think about what our actions, words, and thoughts may cause. Think before you speak. How are your words going to affect the person you’re speaking with? Holding the elevator for someone with their arms full can make their day. Letting it close in their face can make them miss that important meeting.
Think about how you would feel if that were to happens to you and change it. Things can only get better.